Sorry I've been AWOL!

[Sheila-Anne]

Hello everyone, sorry I've not been on for some time. It's been a very stressful time for me. On Tuesday Paul had to have an operation to remove his left eye due to cancer pushing the eye forward. They were going to try to remove the cancer and the orbit of his eye where the cancer started. They had to do it under a local anaesthetic because he would not be able to survive a general anaesthetic. When they removed his eye, the cancer has spread into his temple and in front of his ear on the left side of his face. It would have meant a 5 hour operation to remove everything, so he would have had to have a general anaesthetic. They just stitched his eyelid down and next week he should be going back to the home. There is nothing more they can do for him, so they've got the palliative team involved. Luckily he isn't in any pain or discomfort, and we don't know how much longer he will live! I'm devastated - I hardly slept on Tuesday night. I'm trying to stay cheerful for Paul, but at home I'm not doing much - it's an effort to get out of bed some mornings. I'm meeting up with one of the palliative nurses at the hospital tomorrow at 4 pm and she will point me in the right direction for getting some support for me to help me cope with it all.
Sheila

[wendy]

Dear Sheila,
We are here for you as well, I will continue to keep you both in my prayers and hope that you get the support that you do need.
with love
from
Wendy

[maureenho]

Dear Sheila, so sorry to hear what you and Paul are going through, it must be heartbreaking.
Remember we are here to support you the best we can.

Mo x h###u

[Honey]

So sorry to read this,
Thinking of you both
h###u h###u h###u h###u
x

[Rosalind]

So sorry to hear your devastating news Sheila, thinking of you both h###u .

[Misspears]

Thinking of you both x

[Sheila-Anne]

Paul is back at the nursing home, as from Tuesday and is glad to be out of the hospital. He doesn't know what is going on about the cancer - but it is getting worse every day - the left side of his face is getting more swollen as the cancer spreads. He is spending most of his time asleep, but I'm sitting with him every day. It is breaking my heart to see him like this and know there is nothing I can do to help him!

Sheila

[Rosalind]

So sorry to hear this, thinking of you both h###u

[maureenho]

Try and keep strong for Paul's sake Sheila, it's awful when there is nothing you can do, just be there.

Thinking of you both h###u

[JaneJ]

So sorry to hear this sheila. I can't imagine how hard it is for you.

Be strong lovely sheila. Paul is so lucky to have you by his side.

thinking of you both

xxxxx

[annie]

Thinking of you Sheila Anne & will keep you in my prayers

[wendy]

Sheila, you are helping Paul, by being there. Your love and support will be a great comfort to him.
thank you for letting us know how you both are, you must be so tired.
we are always here for you
xxxx

[Sheila-Anne]

Thank you all for the support. Paul is still going downhill fast - last night and today he has now forgotten how to swallow food and is totally unresponsive to anything you do or say. I don't think it is going to be much longer, bless him.

[Rosalind]

Sorry to hear this Sheila, thinking of you both h###u .

[wendy]

so sorry Sheila, you have been so brave, thank you for letting us know.
My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
xx

[maureenho]

Dear Sheila, so sorry to hear that, try and keep strong at this difficult time, we are thinking of you both.

h###u h###u h###u

[annie]

Thinking of you Sheila h###u

[JaneJ]

So sorry to read this sheila.

thinking of you both
xxxxxx