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Have not had a good day at all. I am a carer for my hubby, he has chronic osteo-arthritis of the spine, hips , knees, is severely sighted & deaf. In March I am due to also have a hip replacement. Which I am dreading big time as I suffer with my nerves. To cap it all today had a huge row with my horrid half brother. He said I was fat !! Over weight. So I have told him. Arthritis is due to me having several falls. . I am also dreading the fact of no proper help for my Hubby. And can see that I will be back doing things I should not. But it cant be helped. Sorry I am moaning on but thanks for reading regards Amandah than999

Sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time, thinking of you h###u .

Is there a reason why you can't get any help now or when you have your op Amanda.

Sorry you are having a hard time , thinking of you h###u
Love anniexx

Hi Thank-you all for your replys. I have a feeling we will not get help, as My Husband already has funding for his comm guides, as he is severley sighted. And as far as the social services are aware that might be enough. But its both of us who need the help. All be it maybe for 3 weeks or so. Still I will really get my teeth into them. Regards Amandah than999

You are going to need a care plan for both of you after you have the operation. I don't agree when you say you will not get help, unless you are very wealthy.
If that is the case please do still go ahead and plan now.
Make sure you get this fixed now.

Dear Wendy, Thank-you for your reply. I agree with you, that we need a proper package. But some how I get the feeling that we will not be lucky . But I am going to keep on at social services. Thank-you . I will keep you posted.Regards Amandah

Hope you get things sorted soon Amandah

Thinking of you

Love Ann x

I really hope you manage to get help in place. When your own health needs attention it is so difficult to prioritise yourself when all you can think of is how your loved one will be looked after.

I'm sure something can be done. i am ever the optimist!!!!

Take care and good luck

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h###u

I hope that you get the care in place that you need
Love anniexx h###u

Hi I agree that we should get proper care, but I some how get the impression that we might not. I will see next month and get my husband to jolly well speak to the social services lady, and tell her that I am not well and not coping with his day to day needs let alone mine. Anyway I will keep on till we get some thing sorted out. Regards Amandah than999

Maybe you could get someone to stand up for you, I forget what area you live.
Please private message me, if you want.
I know who to suggest if you are in Norfolk, but I dont think you are.
If there is a mental health issue then Mind would help you stand up to the authorities.
Good luck.

Have you had a carers assessment Amanda?

Hello, I had a carers assesment done about 3 years ago. I have looked after my Husband for the last 25 years alone. But since last year things have got worse as hes severely sighted, and needs more care, and now I have arthritis as well and have to have a hip replacement next march, which I am really draeding as I am so scared. I have no Family who would be willing to help out. My Husband has comm guides 3 times a week as he s deaf and severely sighted and not mobile. regards Amandah

would it be in your interest to ask for another carers assessment and speak to your support worker as your situation has changed since last one, now is the time to get the ball rolling if you are having an op next march

I think you can apply for another assessment on line.
So go on like Mo says, and get the ball rolling, now...............

I agree with Mo & Wendy, you need another assessment h###u

[/color][/size]Hi Thank-you for your replys. How do I get a carers assessment on line? Thanks again regards anandah. Ps I am in Surrey than999

Contact your local social services and ask them about an assessment.

I had my second carers assessment last week - carers should have an assessment every year, so I've been told, and I had to ring my County Council to arrange it. I had the same lady come to me this year as came last year and she is lovely. Hope you get something sorted soon. xx

I am glad you are sorting this out, we are here to keep reminding you.
Sheila, thank you for posting what you did, I know things are difficult for you.

I hope they sort out another assessment for you.

Is there an advocate service that can d with things for you? I know with Lee's mental health team there is someone to help him deal with things like this.

Thinking of you

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