Janes blog

[wendy]

With many thanks to Jane for writing this blog.
You can view it here
http://chill4uscarers.co.uk/when-the-ca ... cared-for/

I hope many of you will reply, it is easy to do when you are logged into the forum, it is the same.
Anyone else want to do a blog for us?

[annie]

Good job Jane

[maureenho]

Brilliant Jane and thank you for your blog 45'

[JaneJ]

Thank you Wendy for sorting it out and posting it for me.

i hope people find it useful.

Must shout Fred and ask him to make me a cuppa!

[Rosalind]

That was great Jane than999 .

[debzsanderson]

A brilliant insight and written so wellq

[chenrezig]

I have just read it, it a brilliant piece of writing and a real insight

xx

[wendy]

I am surprised so many of you did not read these on the forum, as Jane did post them for you to read several weeks ago.

[JaneJ]

Well i am now 6 weeks into my recovery.

i have been discharged by the hospital and can now do light housework though my normal activities are still on hold for another 6 weeks.

So how did we do?

well we limped over the finish line! Poor Jane limped more than us! She has recovered the use of her foot. Thank goodness for eldest daughter Sarah who came home from university for the holidays and helped no end. Sadly Fred used this as an excuse to go back to his usual activities of staying in his chair, sleeping and expecting to be waited on.

i have never felt so vulnerable as i have done over these weeks. To be in the hands of others who usually depend on you is very frightening. Not being able to support jane through her sprained ligaments and take her to appointments was so distressing. All carers know that control and being organised is the key to our households. Losing this was disorientating and stressful. I lost my place in the house somehow. The go to person was no longer available.

Fred can do more than he let's on. That i knew and we had planned this as a new beginning in our marriage as we would have learned through this experience how to relax on each other not just me. We would go for walks together or chat and be a couple. The plan was that i was unfit after the operation we would do our physio together, walk in the park by our house to improve both out conditions. Sadly Fred didn't join i and after a couple of walks him on his scooter me in foot he suggest i took my phone and call if i had a problem.

So when Sarah came home and could help me with cooking along with jane i was so relieved. Thank goodness for my friends who helped with getting jane to school when she couldn't walk ther due to the pain. Than goodness for the family who rang everyday if they couldn't pop round or in my parents case live to far away. I realised that without my wonderful daughters and my family and friend i would have been in such a hard place where neither of us would have had any help or support.

But i unlike a lot of carers also had so much kindness and support from a place that not many have. This place supports every day no matter what the time or what their situation is . Whether i need to talk or rant everyone is there with support care advice or a virtual hug. This is my second family. The family that i couldn't do with out and who have saved my sanity on a daily basis for nearly 4 years. Chill 4us carers. Co.uk

[annie]

I always enjoy reading your blog, Jane, I cry with you, laugh with you & identify with you so much. Thinking of you
Annxxxx

[Rosalind]

I do so enjoy your blog Jane, you do make me laugh and I understand how hard things are for you, as I have been in that situation. Thinking of you h###u h###u .

[maureenho]

Thank you for the update on your blog, writing a blog about personal experiences is not an easy thing to do.

Well done Jane 33900

[wendy]

thank you Jane

http://chill4uscarers.co.uk/when-the-ca ... more-12352

[JaneJ]

Thank you all
. Your support means so much to me

Xx