Carers Chill4us | Carers message board

8348  4523  tha22222

To be honest, I am not looking forward to Christmas at all. George, my husband, has often been in hospital on Christmas and Boxing Day. Two of my daughters will be here Christmas Day with their families.George is already complaining about this, as his peace and quiet will be disturbed.Hopefully, all will go well and I will try and cook as much as possible in advance. I try to smile and make the best of it. x

Here are all your thoughts put together that will be added to the blog   tha22222


This Christmas will be our first as a couple, my eldest son has recently moved in to supported housing. Goodness, how quiet and tidy the house is. I still worry about him all the time and have much bigger phone bills now!  Christmas will be different but he will be back with us for the day as will my lovely mum and I wouldn't want it any other way.

Again, this Christmas my feelings are mixed. This will be the fourth without my dear Dad..

While it is nice being round lots of people, my brother's partner's family with great-nephew n nieces as it brings back reminders of when it used to be me, Bruv, Mum, Dad, Nan, Grandad n Aunt, Uncle and two cousins all squeezed round the table.

I do have moments at the "gathering" when it all becomes a bit overwhelming with Dad not being there. I some times think I "act" enjoying Xmas, trying to keep overly-busy so I don't dwell too much on the sad bits ...  it is when I get back home, n on my own I think how much Dad would have loved seeing his great-great nephews n nieces  ..

I still write out a card to him n Mum n put it with the other cards ... n take flowers up to St Faiths (crem) for Xmas

Then there is the worry about still not finding work ... and about what the New Year will bring


I just hope my husband is well on Christmas day,I give a big sigh of relief when Christmas day is over.

I miss the fun my husband and & I had at Christmas before he became disabled, I miss the lovely breakfast he used to make for us on Christmas morning, I miss opening our presents together. he used to put all the decorations  & lights up, & it was our favourite time of year He will invariably be in bed most of the day, so it would be  a very lonely day for me if the children didn't come round late afternoon for Christmas dinner. I am lucky that they live nearby, many carers spend the day in complete isolation

I care for hubby who is housebound - our son and daughter live far away so hubby and I will be on our own on Christmas Day.  We'll have nice food of course and hopefully there will be some TV programmes to enjoy - we like carol services and other Christmas programmes.  The Queen will make a welcome appearance.  I'll phone a few friends/relatives to wish Happy Christmas and I'll hear the jolly sounds in the background which will add to the feeling that in spite of remembering that "Jesus is the reason for the season" I will probably feel more lonely and isolated than usual! 

To be honest, I am not looking forward to Christmas at all., my husband, has often been in hospital on Christmas and Boxing Day. Two of my daughters will be here Christmas Day with their families. my husband is already complaining about this, as his peace and quiet will be disturbed.Hopefully, all will go well and I will try and cook as much as possible in advance. I try to smile and make the best of it

4523

There is still time if anyone wish to add their thoughts.

Blog is now done and on front page for you to read http://chill4us.com/news/christmas-can- ... ily-carers

tha22222  4523  ch123

tha22222

I find it hard to manage at Christmas with the pressure added on to me. My husband and I always shared everything about it but now it is down to me.

My family asks us to travel to them but it is too long a drive for my husband. They are in their 70's and i feel i don't have many left with them but am unable to celebrate with them which makes me very sad an guilty. Due to the size of our home it is impossible for them to join us.

My husbands family want us to go to them to open presents on Christmas day. They still don't grasp how hard it is for us to be able to do this and it is so frustrating that they don't "get it"!

So another season of guilt, pressure and stress whilst trying to make it perfect for our 2 daughters.

well done to Maureen and everyone who took part.
thank you Jane

gpr gpr gpr gpr gpr gpr gpr hu**** hu**** hu**** hu**** hu****
For everyone whose Christmas will be a trial

Please remember if ever you would like to do a blog for us, we would be most grateful.
Maureen will tell you how good it makes you feel inside, and it is worth doing,
So why dont you have a go............
and then let us know.

In case you missed this and wanted to read it.

[quote="maureenho"]
Blog is now done and on front page for you to read http://chill4us.com/news/christmas-can- ... ily-carers

tha22222  4523  ch123
[/quote]

Would anyone like to write a small blog about your caring role for our front page in the new year.

tha22222  Thank you Maureen  ch123